THIS is a confusing mess of likability. Jennifer Lawrence, who I do not know or care to know (other than I’m sure she’s a lovely person), speaks of focusing her attention on those people that “hate her.” She speaks of feeling insecure in interview settings. I personally feel confused watching her because she seems pretty playful, somewhat confident and very happy. Yet, she confronts a vulnerable side of her life that is about body image and comparing herself to the pressures of unrealistic expectations. Towards the end of the video she also talks about how her body is more realistic than what Hollywood would prescribe. I’m confused by this because she is obviously pretty skinny, fit and beautiful. On top of it all, the end of the clip finishes by showing the reporter fawn over her “human” side and her ability to be related to.
Since when is being “human” a trait that we honor? Why is someone’s human side a praiseworthy event. Aren’t we all human in every moment? Is not the humanistic component to life unavoidable and present even in moments of pride and deception?
Alone, in a culture not your own and a country where you do not speak the language; place yourself here and feel what it feels like to make the most of it and “get by.” Now on top of it, try and image yourself trying to make someone like you even though you are not of their culture and you do not speak their language. This feeling of “trying”, of grasping and of hoping for some semblance of kindness is an instinctual measure for survival. We are all in a strange country asking to be loved. Not everyone speaks our individual personalized language of human existence. We each have our own alienation to fight through.
Being liked, and wanting to be loved is the most human quality. Wanting to be wanted is more important than feeling successful or satisfied. Being infused with energy from anther human being that tells you your worth is great is a large piece of the puzzle that humanity is trying to put together right now.
Human nature is complicated because in the midst of all this wanting-to-be-loved, there is also aversion of pain. We hide, we scream, we fear and we ask people to protect us from this pain. Pain that is also human. When we see pain for what it is and what it is not, we gather that all of our human encounters are pretty much made up of the same sources of energy. Love that is safe and love that is connecting.